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Someone You Know May Be in an Abusive Relationship If...

...his girlfriend is always checking up on him, calling or paging him, and demanding to know where he's been and whom he's been with.

...he acts extremely jealous when she talks to other guys, even when only a friendly conversation.

...a teen you know seems to be: emotionally broken down, sad all of the time, constantly bruised, unusually quiet, extremely withdrawn, isolated, nervous when talking around the person they're dating, acting oddly, afraid.

...your friend seems to be: detached from everyone and everything, constantly distracted, unwilling to listen to your advice about her relationships, uninterested in your observations, ill and out of school a lot, unable to stop crying.

...her weight, appearance, or grades have changed dramatically since she started dating him.

...he always seems worried about upsetting her.

...since she started dating him, she frequently cancels plans with you and other friends at the last minute, giving reasons that sound untrue.

...he constantly apologizes for her behavior and makes excuses for her.

...she has injuries she can't explain, or the explanation she gives seems lame.

...you've seen him lose his temper and break or damage things when he's angry.

...she seems depressed a lot since she's been dating him.

...since they've been dating, he's given up things that used to be important to him, such as spending time with his friends or the activities he used to participate in.

...she constantly worries about making him angry.

...he constantly talks about how to do something harmful, or says how "cool" violent acts are.

...since he began dating her, he has become more and more isolated from everyone else.

...when she and her boyfriend are together with other people, he tells mean stories about her, calls her names or generally puts her down.

...someone you know who is in a relationship suddenly seems to have noticeable medical problems: they're always going to the doctor, are out sick a lot, show weight loss and/or hair loss.

...one of the teens has a history of being cruel or abusive in their past relationships.

If you said yes to even one, someone you know may be in an abusive relationship. Click here to find some resources to help.

Adapted from the ABA Teen Dating Violence Prevention Recommendations.